You have only a few options, as far as I can tell:
- Set up an anonymous blog (creates the different problem of getting readers).
- Date people who don’t know how to use the internet (creates the different problem of limiting your options–significantly, in my case).
- Just freaking do it.
So, I’m going to take option #3. This obviously creates a different problem as well, but I’m sort of not interested in being coy, so I’ll just describe my feelings about these guys, rather than the guys themselves.
Here is a brief synopsis of my recent dating experiences, in the form of a tally. On the off chance that YOU happen to be one of these guys, it shouldn’t be too difficult to figure out which of these apply to you.
Wow, I can’t believe I did that: 3
Wow, I can’t believe he did that: 0 (I think this is relevant.)
He hasn’t called, what a relief: 2
He hasn’t called, what a bummer: 1
He called, yay! 1
He keeps calling, ugh: 1
Looking at it in this simplified way forces me to admit that the guys who didn’t call irk me the most. It’s not just the bruised ego. Only one non-caller actually disappointed me. No, I’m irked because they told me they would. And they didn’t. And that just makes me feel icky.
The irked and icky in me would therefore like to get up on a soapbox and tell you all how it is. I would always rather someone tell me the hard truth (they don’t actually like me that much, they don’t want to go out with me again, they think knitting is going to bring about the apocolypse), then tell me an easy lie. Always. Every time. No exceptions.
ha ha, I like this. I get it, a little too much this week.
I have one guy who called, who I hoped wouldn’t, and am exhausted and am trying to decide which is the lesser of evils… emailing (because that is all I have to energy for) to say I’m not interested in going out again, or ignoring it a few days longer (which, realistically, isn’t going to make it easier to call). I think emailing is going to win.
I always say I’m going to call but then never do. I have confrontation. And making people feel bad. If I don’t have to see them as their ego is being crushed then it’s almost like it didn’t happen, right? Right?!
Set up an anonymous blog (creates the different problem of getting readers).
Not really… At least, not in my case.
I have told 12-20 current friends about my “secret” blog. They don’t always comment, BUT they are constantly reading it because I get emails/IMs/Facebook messages from my friends about it.
I do mine in secret for several reasons, the first of which being I don’t want to get sued (or threatened to be sued) for sharing stories or using pictures without permission, second it is more fun and easier for the audience to relate to my story if I use a label (horse label in my case) than a name.
I feel you on this. I’m torn though- for the most part, I’d rather a guy tell me he’s not interested than just have him not call. Mostly I’d rather have a quick sting of hurt that I can get over rather than wait and wait and wait and finally realize he’s not interested. But at the same time, I don’t want them to be TOO honest about why they don’t want to see me again.